(With Valentine’s Day in just one week, I thought it might be a good idea to republish this post from last year. It’s a reminder that although many of us will be spending the day without Prince Charming, some intentional planning can help make it a lovely day for ourselves and others.)
The fourteenth of February is a day set aside for love notes and flowers and dinner for two. Every girl in town will spend the evening staring into her sweetie’s eyes and soaking up the love. Well, every girl except this one. I won’t see my hubby very much on Valentine’s Day. That’s just how it is when you’re married to a restaurant manager.
There are many different situations that can leave us feeling left out on special days. My husband always works on Valentine’s Day. Other brave women will spend the day changing diapers and disciplining toddlers while their husbands are deployed overseas. And some will be reminded constantly that Mr. Right still hasn’t come knocking at the door. Maybe you can relate?
Just like on Mother’s Day, it’s tempting for me to throw myself a lonely little pity party. It feels like the natural thing to do. But lonely little pity parties are….well….lonely. Instead, I’ve found that it’s better (and much more fun) to look out toward others instead of focusing in on myself. Imagine that.
Here are some ideas for beating the I’m-alone-on-Valentine’s-Day blues:
Many couples would love a kid-free date, but simply can’t afford the babysitting costs. Offering to spend the evening chasing a toddler or two is a fun (and distracting) way to minister to young parents.
DINNER FOR A FEW
I know an older single woman who hosts a fancy dinner in her home for other single gals every Valentine’s Day. Lovely. What a great alternative to the traditional pity party theme.
Being single, divorced, or widowed hurts, especially on a day dedicated to enjoying the love of your life. This kind of day can feel very empty for someone like my mom, who is still getting used to living without my dad. It’s hard. I’m planning to invite her over for a simple meal and some cookie decorating with me and the kids.
BAKE IT UP
Valentine’s Day is one of my favorite holidays for baking. I love cutting things into hearts or coloring them pink…..cookies, brownies, cake frosting. The possibilities are endless. The neighbors will never expect a goodie bag filled with treats and love. Surprise!
So, what ideas do you have for showing some love to others? Share in the comments. Oh, and don’t forget to enter the “Blog at Home Mom” giveaway before it’s too late!
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